Guiding children to solve their own problems

when a child comes to you with a problem

Empathy
~"how sad"
~"I bet that hurts"

If you go to a child with a problem and if a child comes to you with a problem
Send the Power Message
~ "what do you think you're going to do?"
~" Would you like to hear what other kids have tried?"
Child states the consequences
~ " And how will that work?"
Give permission for the child to solve the problem or not solve the problem
~" Good luck. I hope it works out."



Ask "How will I know if that choice is working for you?"

warnings

"do NOT issue warnings. This tells students it's okay to misbehave once; that it is okay the second time they misbehave that will land them a consequence"


Seems to make sense

wording so the student chooses the punishment

Teacher: Tom, it seems hard for you to work on your project today. What do you think might happen if you keep talking instead of working?

Student picks an outcome.

Teacher: That's a possibility. Anything else?

(do this a couple of times)

Teacher: Tell you what. I'll come back in a couple of minutes. If it seems you're still having trouble concentrating, I'll pick one of those suggestions.